Since I have been having problems shaking this problem with the house fire and two people died.  I have been seeing a shrink for with my problem.  I went in a bit skeptical but now it has been three days since I have seen her and I have to admit that talking to her has helped more then I thought.  I feel better talking to someone.  I did talk to my partner, family, friends, and new online  friends hundreds of miles away in another state.  It helped some but not as much as speaking to a total stranger even though she knows my entire medical history.  It has made it easier to talk to her, it was like I was prepped.   I do feel a lot better and now know what I must do the next time this happens.